A narcissist is more codependent than a codependent himself or herself. I call them mutated codependents. If you were to leave a narcissist in the middle of a desert, they wouldn’t last for more than an hour because, as I said earlier in other points, they need constant supply. So they might like to think they are really independent, they don’t need anybody else, they are self-sustaining, and they can maintain their ego on their own. But the truth is, they need you in their lives more than you need them. They depend on your emotions, they depend on your memory of them, and they depend on how you are getting impacted by their presence for them to feel any importance at all because it’s also known they feel so unimportant deep within. They are nothing but a huge lie that needs to be constantly told and believed in for it to exist. Once the light shines in—the light of truth, the light of who you are and how you do not need to be with them—their foggy selves melt away. It goes away. That is how frail they are; that’s how weak they are. But in that weakness, the toxicity that comes across is very strong, very effluent, and life-altering, as you know. You need to understand that in a narcissist’s life, their sources of supply are the foundation of their personality because they themselves are like this structure that has been built in thin air. It doesn’t have any base. If you remove yourself from the equation, it will collapse. It’s doomed to be that way.
Life quality number five they lack is that they can’t listen.
Now, many people are bad listeners; those who are not narcissists by habit like to talk more. I’m not talking about these people; I’m talking about narcissists. They do not listen, even when they seem to be listening. All the time they are extracting data to collect information to know who you are, only to recognize your weak points and how they can infiltrate, seep in, and find their way into your psyche, only to abuse you and manipulate you as a source of supply. They never listen or care, which is why none of their romantic relationships actually last because they’re not there with the partner. They are there for themselves; they’re there for the admiration, but not for the family they pretend to be a part of. They have a piece of flesh in their chest that keeps beating that we call a heart, but for them, it’s not a heart; it’s just a piece of flesh, as I called it. They do not actually have a heart, and for someone to truly listen and care, they need to have a heart, they need to have empathy, and they need to be genuinely concerned. And you and I both know that if there is one person that a narcissist is truly concerned about, it is themselves. You may be dying in front of them; if it is not bothering them or if it is not impacting their functioning in any way, they don’t care. They’ll justify why you’re suffering, and they will want you to suffer more because that makes them feel superior and more powerful, especially if that suffering is caused by them.
In conclusion, narcissists are pseudo-humans or subhumans; they are entities. For these reasons, they don’t see anyone beyond their own false self. They always want others to serve their egos because their egos partially depend on other people’s validation and admiration. You’re nothing but a pawn in their game, and you have to remove yourself from that equation, and you will see the narcissist collapsing. There’s no one home; you just need to accept that. Having said that, I would like to know what your thoughts and opinions are. Drop them in the comments below, share this episode with others, and I’ll talk with you in the next one. Until then, as always, let the healing begin and continue.
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