If this resonates with you, here’s what you can do about it: it’s not enough to detox from toxic people. Their behaviors change your nervous system, creating what’s called “over-couplings.” For instance, after a relationship filled with narcissistic behavior, anniversaries might become reminders of pain. Healing isn’t just about detoxing; it’s about reconditioning ourselves to love things we once loved.
Here are a few tips:
- Awareness: Start noticing when you are overly focused on how they feel. Narcissists train you to be attuned to them, neglecting your own needs.
- Self-Love: Give yourself what you need. Ask yourself what would make you happy and do that for yourself.
- Accept Reality: Recognize how they are during holidays. Making a list of past occasions can help ground you in reality.
- Don’t Over-Explain: When the narcissist tries to manipulate perceptions, remind yourself that you know the truth. You don’t need others’ approval to hold on to your reality.
The biggest tip for avoiding narcissists is doing the inner work to uproot the false beliefs they instilled in you. Embrace your authentic self, as nothing frustrates a narcissist more than seeing you thrive. If you’re struggling, remember there’s a 50% off sale in the Thriver School of Transformation, where we journey through recovery together—you don’t have to do it alone.
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