Narcissists try their level best to appear fearless. They make it seem like they have zero weaknesses or vulnerabilities. But in truth, in reality, they’re cowards. They do have buttons that, when pushed, make them act out of character, and they lose all that control, that stability, the facade they put on, and that fragile, vulnerable, broken true self that comes to the surface. What are their biggest fears? Let’s find out in today’s episode.
Fear number one: when they can’t manipulate you.
Narcissists depend on the information they can extract from observing your emotional state, from trying to know what you’re thinking, how you are perceiving, and what emotions can be triggered by acting in a certain way. The narcissist strategizes their moves, and they know how to control you using your own emotional map. But when you become unpredictable, when you are flat-faced and there is no feedback they’re getting from you, they go crazy, and they become really distressed since they do not know what you’re thinking about them, if you see them the way they want you to see them, if you are ready to give them that admiration, that validation, basically if you are under their spell or not. This is the primary reason why a narcissist is terrified of being around a neurodivergent individual, someone who is on the spectrum and is artistic, because their expression is different than that of neurotypical individuals. They do not show emotions the way most people do, and the narcissist blueprint fails there. They do not know which script to apply, which makes them more reactive than ever because they are acting out of a very distressful state. They do not know how to gauge their responses or what buttons to push because everything they’re trying is not giving them the response they’re used to getting from other people, which unfortunately leads to further abuse because when they are not able to control the individual they’re targeting easily, they use other methods that are more painful for the one who’s on the receiving end.
Fear number two: Narcissists are terrified of exposure.
Continue reading on the next page
Sharing is caring!
