They can never celebrate your success because they are destined to feel like a failure. You could be standing there with an Olympic medal in your hand, and that narcissist will find a way to feel superior to you. Or worse, they will find a way to destroy that moment for you—not because they want the medal more, but because they can’t stand the feeling of being small next to someone else’s joy.
The truth is, they do not just envy your success; they resent your light. A narcissist is cursed to always feel like a failure, no matter what they achieve. The reason is simple: they do not have a real self to validate them from the inside. Their entire identity is built on comparison, so no matter how far they go, how much they accomplish, or how hard they work to be seen as the best, they are constantly measuring themselves against everyone around them, and it’s never enough.
They suffer from a sickness of the soul called the “grass is greener” syndrome. If you are happy, they are miserable. If you are growing, they feel left behind. If you shine, they feel exposed. Even if you are someone they once claimed to love, they cannot tolerate your wins because your growth reminds them of everything they are not and cannot be.
That’s why they downplay your achievements, mock your dreams, and act bored when something beautiful happens in your life. But it does not stop there. When envy festers long enough inside a narcissist, it turns into something much darker: vindictiveness. They do not just want what you have; they want to destroy what you have built. If they cannot take it from you, they will try to burn it down to the ground.
I’ve seen this happen so many times: people finally escape, start healing, find success, and the narcissist comes back—not to reconnect, but to sabotage—because they cannot stand watching you become someone who no longer needs them.
That’s the curse: they keep chasing lifestyles, people, looks, and careers, hoping it will somehow fix what is broken inside. But it never does because they are disconnected from their own essence. That is why they will never be able to celebrate your success; they are too haunted by the feeling that they do not have a real self to celebrate within.
4. Spiritual Enlightenment: The Narcissist’s Barrier
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