And then the third thing that they will likely do when you go no contact is start that triangulation, which is kinda in the discard phase, that’s when you start to see the birth of the smear campaign. So they’ll escalate even the triangulation, meaning that they’re lining up their flying monkeys. They’re talking to people that you know, they want you to feel excluded. They want you to feel isolated. They want you to be punished for going no contact with them. So they want you to think that they’re doing great and you are making a huge mistake by going no contact with them. They’re going to have everybody in your world against you and everyone’s going to line up for them. And everyone’s going to think you’re the crazy one or you’re the bad one or maybe you’re the narcissist. And they’ll try to divide you in that way. So isolate you, manipulate situations, triangulate that smear campaign. So that’s kinda all goes into number three as far as triangulation smear campaign and lining up flying monkeys against you.
So the fourth thing is that their narcissistic injury could be triggered, and therefore, narcissistic rage comes flying out. So now they’re not just trying to hover over you; they’re not just pushing you more; they’re not just triangulating; they’re not just escalating. Now it’s like they’re in full-on rage. “You will do what I want, you will come back, and you will be punished.” And sometimes I think they go into this rage state just so that you’re afraid, just so that you are punished. It’s not just that they’re angry. I mean, I know that they’re angry too; you know, they’re like two-year-olds in an adult body. So they’re literally having a tantrum now. They’re literally super angry. And sometimes, during this phase, that’s when they start to actually become undone; they start to make mistakes. And that’s when you know you’re starting to close in on them, and in a negotiation setting, that’s when you know that your tactics are actually starting to work. And that’s when you are actually the most vulnerable to going, “Oh my God, I don’t think I have the stomach for this,” but that’s when you gotta keep going. Because narcissists are always the worst right before they’re ready to give up.
So that leads me to number five, which is that sometimes they do; they completely collapse; they just become undone. They don’t know what to think about their world because they do have a very fragile sense of self. For them, the world is a place of survival that they have to survive. And so sometimes they do collapse, and that’s number five.
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