Even though there may be some temporary benefit, such as the narcissist’s mood improving or them becoming easier to deal with, this will not last. All you have done is lower your standards for someone who does not care about you or appreciate you. Once the narcissist is done with tearing down one boundary, they will be looking to tear down another and another until you have no defenses left or any moral ground to stand on. Therefore, no matter how much the narcissist sulks, kicks up a fuss, or goes silent, you cannot compromise. Hold fast to your beliefs, hold fast to your values, and keep those boundaries strong.
The third temptation when it comes to narcissists is wanting to change them.
The narcissist might even try to convince you that you are their only hope or that you are what they need in their life. But no. The only person who can change the narcissist is the narcissist. It is not your responsibility to change anyone. You can be a positive influence; you can be a role model to others, but the onus of bringing about actual change lies within the individual. Narcissists usually are not willing to put in the work because they are too proud to humble themselves and too fearful to face their demons. They prefer to make others feel like it is their responsibility to help them improve. But it is not.
The fourth temptation when it comes to narcissists is waiting.
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