Narcissists often gravitate toward people who have something they want—whether it’s physical attractiveness, status, wealth, power, or charisma. To them, you were more than just a person; you were a tool, an accessory to help feed their narcissistic supply. Once they discard you, they revert to their true selves, returning to the void they lived in before they met you.
As an empath, you likely found yourself attracted to the narcissist’s façade because you value honesty, loyalty, and genuine connection. Narcissists are adept at mirroring these qualities, showing you what you wanted to see in the beginning. Through love-bombing and manipulation, they make you overlook the red flags. But all this is a way to compensate for their deep-seated insecurities. They feel unworthy, insecure, and undeserving, which is why they resort to control and manipulation. A secure person doesn’t need to tear others down.
At the start of the relationship, the narcissist admires your inner beauty and your physical traits. They will even acknowledge it themselves, praising your value. But as time passes, their admiration turns into competition. They start to feel inferior, believing that your attractiveness and personality are superior to theirs. This fuels their desire to compete with you, outdo you, and ultimately undermine you. If they truly believed they were better than you, there would be no need for them to abuse, manipulate, or devalue you.
In the end, the narcissist’s actions reveal the truth of how they really feel. They may have started off admiring you, but their envy and insecurity quickly transform that admiration into an unhealthy, destructive obsession. It’s not because you weren’t enough—it’s because they knew they could never measure up.
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