Narcissists and their flying monkeys can be awfully tricky to deal with on your own. But having a solid group of people in your corner can really turn the tables on them. When the agents of the narcissist start to figure out that your strong support system is too much for them, their next step might be to turn you against one another. This can occur in a variety of ways, but two of the main ways these abusers will try to break you up are to try to spread false rumors about you or to use information you gave them to make you or your friends look bad. Riling you up and making you think that your friends don’t have your back can lead to turmoil within your group, which is why you have to try your best not to let these things get to you. The worst thing a friend group can do is start doubting one another. So bringing those rumors or accusations to your friends directly so they can dispute them is the best way to stay close-knit and together.
Number 7: The classic smear campaign.
Of all the tactics a narcissist will try, the flying monkey smear campaign is usually the most common. When this happens, it can feel like all of it came out of nowhere and that suddenly there is so much talk about you going around the goal from their perspective. Is to make you feel alone and to make your friends or coworkers question if they really know you. Things can get pretty nasty when insults and gossip are being thrown around. But it won’t last. Eventually, people will start to understand that this is all just a childish attempt to make you look bad. And as long as you are able to keep a level head, you should be more than fine.
Number 6: They want to break you.
Abuse by proxy is all about making you feel small and vulnerable with the hope that you can be broken. It takes some mental fortitude not to give in and become reactionary or defensive, but you should not stoop to the narcissist level. People who get shaken up by this kind of behavior can look erratic or act out of character. And the people around you are going to notice that bullying simply has no place in today’s culture. And most people are going to be able to see through the flying monkeys attempts to trigger you. By the way, make sure to subscribe if you’ve learned something new today.
Number 5: The flying monkeys will try to earn your trust.
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