Narcissists delusionally believe that they can remain unaffected emotionally in almost all situations. They believe that they have this Herculean strength of staying afloat; they are not impacted by what anybody says to them. That’s how they think. But as you and I both know, their reality is the opposite of what they make it…
Surviving narcissistic abuse leaves you with a unique set of trauma responses that you would not see in other trauma survivors. By “other trauma survivors,” I mean survivors of different forms of trauma such as poverty, surviving a car accident, or war. Unfortunately, the diagnostic criteria for post-traumatic stress in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical…
A narcissist’s relationship with their phone is as toxic as their relationship with you or other people. They use their phone as a portal to gain massive supply by projecting a fake image to the world. Nobody truly gets to know or experience the real person behind the screen. People don’t know the person behind…
No matter what happens, never go to your narcissistic husband’s mother for support. She will never understand your situation because she is his biggest ally, an enabler who sees no faults in his character. She is a friend to him who will never betray him; instead, she will blame you. She will find faults in…
When we play out the usual narcissistic relationship cycle — idealization, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering — it can look like the narcissist is fully in control. It feels that the narcissistic person is the one pulling the strings, doing the love bombing, engaging in seduction, or doing the deep dive into pseudo-empathy. And once they…
In my opinion, narcissists are evil hypnotists who use dark psychological tactics to change your self-perception, your perception of others, and the world at large. Their primary goal is to establish maximum control over you. They achieve this by putting you in a deep psychological trance and continuously saying or doing things to brainwash you…
Let’s begin today with a realization of what narcissists desire most in their relationship with you. We can pretty safely say that virtually all narcissists, in some form or another, want to establish their power over you. These are power-broker kind of people. They want to convince themselves, anyway, that they have a lot of…
Most experts on narcissism will tell you that narcissists have zero self-control and are very impulsive. But what if I tell you that’s not entirely true? Narcissists can and do display some kind of self-control when they are in situations where they cannot be their true selves. For example, when they are in public and…
Survivors of narcissistic abuse often find themselves questioning the universe, God, or the Divine, wondering why they had to endure such suffering. They ask, “How could the universe let this happen? Why didn’t I receive help? Why didn’t God intervene?” In truth, God is not responsible for the abuse inflicted by narcissists. God is love,…
Narcissists are known for their manipulative behavior and a tendency to deceive others to serve their own needs. Recognizing the lies they tell is crucial in protecting ourselves from their harmful influence. In this article, we will explore eight common lies told by narcissists, shedding light on their manipulative tactics and the effects they have…