The narcissist can’t handle your absence. Here’s why it torments them: they aren’t just tormented by your absence; they’re obsessed with it. Yes, you heard me right. That person who manipulated, gaslit, and emotionally drained you isn’t sitting pretty now that you’re gone. Nope, they’re scrambling, they’re unraveling, and here’s why.
First off, let’s get one thing straight: narcissists don’t do relationships; they do transactions. You were never a person to them; you were a resource—a source of supply, validation, admiration, and control. When you walk away, when you finally say enough is enough and cut ties, that’s when the real chaos begins for them. Because here’s the thing: they need you, not because they care about you, but because they need what you gave them. Without it, they’re lost.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But they hurt me! They made me feel worthless! How could they possibly miss me?” Oh, they don’t miss you; they miss the power they had over you. They miss the control; they miss the way you made them feel about themselves. And when that’s gone, when you’re no longer there to feed their fragile ego, that’s when the torment starts.
Let’s break it down. Imagine you’re the narcissist. You’ve spent years manipulating someone who’s genuine, loyal, and kind. You’ve lied, gaslit, and emotionally abused them, and for a while, it works. You feel powerful and in control. But then, something happens: they wake up. They see through your facade, and they leave—just like that. No drama, no begging—just gone. Now, what are you left with? Nothing but the echo of your own emptiness. No one to manipulate, no one to control, no one to feed your insatiable need for validation. That’s when the real torment begins.
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