One of the narcissist’s most painful tactics is flaunting a new romantic interest, the “new supply,” on social media, purposefully parading this person before your friends and family. The message is clear: they’ve “moved on,” implying that you were the problem. This tactic aims to trigger self-doubt within you, making you question if their new relationship is better than what you had. However, it’s essential to understand that the new supply may also experience the same cycle of manipulation.
Hoovering Attempts
Contrary to what some believe, narcissists often don’t permanently “move on” once they find someone new. Even if they seem absorbed with their new partner, they may still hoover—attempting to pull you back into their orbit. Their entitlements and need for control compel them to keep communication lines open, even using former relationships for continued emotional or physical gratification.
Occasionally, they may beg you to return, pleading as if they’ve changed. Yet, this is often another manipulation tactic. Once they regain control, the behavior stops, and they might even ghost you, only to resurface later, creating an illusion of change.
Understanding the Hoovering Tactic
It’s essential to understand that hoovering does not signify genuine care; it is merely a tool for control and manipulation. Regardless of the stage of the relationship, there is a high chance the narcissist is interacting with you in a calculated way to reassert control.
In Conclusion
I hope this provides you with insight into the stages and dynamics at play in narcissistic relationships. If you’re currently experiencing any of these stages, feel free to share your experience in the comments below to foster a supportive community of understanding and healing.
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