Gaslighting is the ultimate form of deception. When a narcissist repeatedly doubts and denies your reality, you become consumed with self-doubt and lose faith in your own perspective of reality.
Because it can emerge in every type of manipulation you can imagine, gaslighting is extremely strong. Minimization, conventional, distraction, and ultimatum are the four types of gaslighting.
When a narcissist compares your thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions to those who are in worse situations, this is known as minimization. It’s designed to make you feel terrible for having the “complaint” in the first place, in order to silence you.
Are you serious when you say that when there are those in need? (blank).
You choose today out of all the days to whine about something so insignificant?!
You’re being overly sensitive; it was only a joke.
Traditional gaslighting occurs when you approach a narcissist about your thoughts, feelings, or emotions and are flatly denied. The major goal of a narcissist is to create a false reality that allows them to ignore their own fears, inadequacies, and insecurities. Traditional gaslighting will gradually persuade you to embrace the narcissist’s version of reality, giving them enormous power and control over you.
That didn’t happen.
I’m sorry if I offended you.
Everyone believes you’re insane.
When a narcissist uses other elements, generally irrelevant ones, to disregard and/or discredit your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, this is known as distraction. They attempt to divert your attention away from your original problem and avoid dealing with their own behavior by introducing new factors.
I can’t cope with your bipolar rants right now, so we’ll talk about it later.
Blank was correct; I believe you should be on medication.
We’ll discuss it later; my brother’s cat is sick, and I’m having trouble thinking straight.
The ultimatum is a scare strategy. When a narcissist uses ultimatums to gaslight you, they’re attempting to link your need to express your views, feelings, and worries with the dread of punishment. If you do it right, you’ll stay mute for the rest of the relationship because you’re afraid of their reaction.
I’m leaving if you moan about this one more time.
I’m not going to talk to you anymore if you don’t (blank).
This will be the last time I listen to someone as ignorant as you.
On paper, it may appear to be a minor sort of manipulation, but having your reality denied can be harmful to your mental health after months, years, or even decades of living in a pervasive environment of manipulation aimed to cause as much self-doubt, self-blame, and confusion as possible.
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