When a Narcissist Sees You as Being Too Strong, This Is What They’ll do
It’s often not understood that narcissists aren’t the type to pursue “low lives.” If a self-destructive narcissist is bothering you, it’s probably because you’re a positive force who others can learn from. You have an exceptional capacity for empathy. You love deeply and kindly, and you act nicely and well. Moreover, you have a lot going for you in many ways. You represent the antithesis of the narcissist. You’re also likely quite intelligent and quite successful. You’re the reason for their success—you improve their reputation subtly, and at first, they appreciate it.
Thus, the narcissist will be first drawn to you because of your strength, personal power, and all the other characteristics that make you dynamic. This is because they are constantly looking out for number one—their own self-interest. Narcissists, however, need to dominate social situations. Furthermore, they need to manufacture and sustain an impression of invincibility, regardless of how elusive it may be.
A destructive narcissist will eventually find your strength and power to be a major source of conflict. Depending on the specifics, it may become immediately apparent—sometimes right away, and other times it takes a while longer to become an obvious problem.
In the couple’s dynamic, you’ll feel a genuine change in the air when that time comes. Your strength and personal power may cause a covert narcissist to feel fear, envy, and insecurity—but they may be able to keep it a secret for a while. A more blatant narcissist can flip from “Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde” in an instant. As a result, they probably won’t be able to keep their triggers and ego wounds hidden for long.
All narcissists are dishonest and cunning, but covert ones are especially so, in my opinion and observation.
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