The Dangerous Type of Narcissist No One Talks About (Not Covert or Psychopathic)
Every new person becomes proof in their mind. They still feel desirable, powerful, and important. They often deliberately choose capable, talented, and successful partners because those partners provide stability, care, money, and resources. At the same time, they resent those partners for succeeding where they have failed. Your success constantly reminds them of their lack of discipline, purpose, and achievement. That resentment can push them to lie, cheat, manipulate, humiliate, and psychologically break the person who carried them through life.
They want their successful partner to doubt themselves. Your talent exposes their laziness. Your independence exposes their dependence. Your growth exposes their stagnation. So instead of becoming better, they become committed to making you feel smaller through competition.
The tragedy is that the only person carrying the relationship may be you: paying the bills, managing the home, buying groceries, raising children, solving crises, and keeping life together while the other person contributes very little. They may be financially dependent, emotionally unavailable, and reliant on you. They want the respect of a successful man or woman without doing the work required to become one. They want the authority of a provider without providing. They want the loyalty of a partner while cheating, lying, and humiliating you. They want to be treated like the prize while you fund, manage, and emotionally sustain the entire relationship.
That is what makes an unsuccessful narcissist so dangerous.
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