The Relationship Every Aging Narcissist Wants After 55 (Nobody Talks About)

But the narcissist needs you more than you need them. So what happens? They often go for younger people who need money, who are struggling in life, or who do not have anyone in their family to guide them. They intentionally look for vulnerable younger people they can use and discard. Think of an aging narcissist like an old spider whose main web has been torn down by the wind. They can no longer catch the big, strong, wise human beings who see the trap from a mile away. So they crawl into a dark corner and wait for a young, lost person who is completely disoriented by the struggles of early adulthood.

They look for the person working two jobs just to make rent, or the person who grew up without a supportive mother or father. They look for someone who is hungry for a break in life, because a hungry person is much easier to feed with poisonous bait. They track down these young people in college environments, low-paying workplaces, or through internet apps—using their age and whatever money they have left to look like a safe harbor in a giant storm.

Once they spot their target, they roll out a very specific, deeply tragic script to draw them into the trap.

Then what do they do?

First, they tell their sad story. They explain how life treated them badly, how nobody was ever good to them, and how everyone abandoned them. They turn themselves into the ultimate victim of a cruel world. They will look into that young person’s eyes and say that their own children are cold monsters who do not care about them. They will claim their ex stole their wealth, or that their old friends betrayed their loyalty. They do this because they know a kind, naive person will instantly feel deep pity for them.

Then they tell this young person, “It’s okay. I’ll help you financially. I’ll take care of you. I’ll give you the support of a partner—and even the support of a parent.” This is a brilliant and evil strategy. By offering to be both a romantic partner and a parental guide, they patch up every single emotional hole that young person has in their life. If the young person needs rent money, the narcissist pays it. If the young person needs career advice, the narcissist gives it with total confidence. They wrap themselves around the victim like a warm blanket, making the young person believe they have finally found a true mentor, a savior, and a deep form of love they were craving.

But this “beautiful rescue mission” is completely fake. And the bill for their help arrives sooner than the victim thinks.

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