Why the Narcissist Needs You to be the Villain
If you’ve spent years wondering why someone seemed absolutely determined to make you the villain, maybe it was never because you actually became the person they described. Maybe the role itself was necessary. Somebody had to carry the blame. Somebody had to absorb the shame. Somebody had to be responsible for the consequences of their choices. And as long as you were willing to question yourself, defend yourself, apologize endlessly, and accept responsibility for things you didn’t cause, you were incredibly convenient for that role.
But you don’t have to play it anymore. You can hand the role back. You can stop defending yourself against a fictional version of you. You can stop trying to earn an acquittal from someone who needed you guilty. And instead of asking, who did they say I was? you can finally begin asking, who do I know myself to be? Healing becomes less about correcting their story and more about writing your own.
Let them have their story. You have a life to live.
You don’t have to spend the rest of your life proving you weren’t the villain in somebody else’s distorted story. You just have to stop believing you were.
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