Nothing unsettles a narcissist more than seeing a former partner genuinely enjoying life without them. By engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, you’ll start healing in ways that naturally display your progress. Pursue hobbies, join social groups, and explore activities that you’re passionate about. When you share these experiences on social media, you reinforce your independence, making it clear that you’re living life on your own terms.
If the narcissist does see these updates, they’re left feeling a loss of control as you move forward in your life without them. The notion that their influence has diminished and you’re thriving on your own challenges their perception of power and leaves them feeling irrelevant.
What the Narcissist Really Misses
While these steps may prompt a narcissist to “miss” you, it’s essential to understand that they don’t miss you in the conventional sense. They don’t reflect on your unique qualities or long for your companionship in a genuine way. Instead, they miss the control, the validation, and the emotional highs and lows they could manipulate you into feeling. The narcissist’s version of “missing you” is, at its core, a desire to regain power over you.
Moving Forward: Letting the Process Be About You
While these five steps might initially feel like strategies to “make them miss you,” they’re ultimately about reclaiming your independence and self-worth. By learning to detach, setting boundaries, and focusing on personal growth, you’ll be taking meaningful steps to break free from their hold.
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