The Scary Signs of Agoraphobia After Narcissistic Abuse
The nervous system of a person who has experienced complex trauma operates fundamentally differently than that of someone who hasn’t experienced prolonged abuse.
When faced with the prospect of leaving home, your body goes into what is called hypervigilance mode. Your heart rate increases. Your breathing becomes shallow—or you may stop breathing. Your muscles tense up in preparation for fight, flight, or freeze. But since there is no actual immediate physical threat, this energy has nowhere to go, creating that paralyzed feeling.
The brain then starts catastrophizing—imagining all the worst-case scenarios that could happen outside. Will someone reject me? Will they take advantage of me? Will I say something wrong? Will I be judged? Will I be attacked? Will I be laughed at?
These thoughts quickly spiral because the brain has been trained to expect the worst form of human interactions—the worst side to humanity.
Things changed dramatically for me once I understood what was really happening. From doing webinars to meeting so many people online every single day, I’ve gotten completely used to social interactions. But I was not like this before.
It gives me no anxiety anymore now. In fact, I love doing this every day. I love appearing in front of you, in front of a lot of people, talking with them.
This transformation happened because I realized it was never my natural personality. Which is why I’ve been telling you: maybe it’s not your shyness. Maybe it’s just a big trauma response. Maybe it’s your nervous system dysregulation.
When you understand that your fear of leaving home is not a character flaw but a survival mechanism, everything changes. Compassion comes in—and that’s what you need to reclaim yourself, rebuild your confidence, and move forward.
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