5 Insane Lies Narcissists Tell Themselves to Survive Their Own Collapse
It is easier for them to believe that you put a curse on them than it is to admit they ruined their own life. By turning you into this evil mastermind, they get to be the innocent victim. They tell themselves that any bad thing happening to them right now is just the leftover poison from you. They do this so they never have to take responsibility for their own terrible choices.
The second lie: They tell themselves they gave you everything and you just used them. This is where they completely steal your reality. Think about everything you did for them. You were the one who worked hard, possibly paid the bills, cleaned up the messes, and forgave them over and over again. You gave them your time, money, and your peace.
But in their fake movie, they flip the script entirely. They sit in the collapsed, messy life and tell themselves, “I was the one who made all the sacrifices. I gave them everything I had, and they just took advantage of my kind heart.” They actually believe this. They cry fake tears. They tell themselves that they carried you on their back and then you just abandoned them when things got hard—when it was time for you to show up or stick by them.
Why do they tell themselves this lie? Because a narcissist literally cannot survive if they admit they are a user. They have to believe they’re a hero who was wronged by aggressively blaming you for their situation. They gave themselves an excuse to hate you. They use that fake anger as fuel to pull themselves out of the mud. They convince themselves that they need to rebuild their life just to show you how wrong you were for abandoning them.
The third lie: They tell themselves you are sitting at home obsessing over stopping them 24/7. Even when their world has crashed, their ego still demands to be the center of the universe. They cannot handle the fact that you may be moving on and living a quiet, peaceful life while you’re trying to get yourself together.
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