5 Reasons Why Narcissists Don’t Remember Abusing You
A narcissist can remember every single minor detail of a mistake you made decades ago. They can bring up the exact dates, times, and words you used 20 years ago just to crush you in an argument. But when it comes to what they did to you, suddenly they seem completely clueless. They sit right in front of you with a calm face, look you straight in the eye, and ask, “What did I even do? Why are you making such a nasty face?” or, “When did I even say that?” And you sit there feeling completely crazy.
Of course, you know this is gaslighting. But in that moment, you feel like you’re losing your mind. You know it happened. You know they did it. You know they said those exact words to break your heart. But somehow, you feel like you have no words to describe it or prove it.
Any normal human being would remember screaming at someone, humiliating them, or breaking their trust. But with their convincing charm, calm personality, and shameless lies, they put on such a smooth front that it makes you think, “Maybe I’m actually the problem. Maybe I’m making it up.” It’s completely mind-boggling to a lot of us.
I get asked this question so many times: How can they do this and not know what they’re doing? Do they genuinely not know? Do they genuinely not remember? And that’s exactly how powerful their gaslighting is. I’d like to answer these questions once and for all in this episode, so stay until the very end.
Number one: They delete their provocation and highlight your reaction.
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