5 Reasons Why Narcissists Don’t Remember Abusing You
Whenever you confront a narcissist about a lie, a betrayal, or a broken promise, their ego experiences a massive, intolerable shock. To protect themselves from feeling even a second of shame, they instantly turn your confrontation into the primary crime.
If they cheat and you catch them, the issue is suddenly not their betrayal. It’s the fact that you looked through their phone or spoke to them in a disrespectful tone. They tell themselves, “You disrespected me first by challenging my authority.”
Suddenly, your boundary becomes a far bigger offense in their mind than the horrific thing they did to you in the first place. Because they feel disrespected by your confrontation, the humiliation, rage, and punishment that follow feel completely justified to them.
They completely erase their original sin and spend the rest of the night punishing you for what? Daring to hold them accountable. That’s how they are.
When you put all five of these pieces together, you finally get the answer to that burning question: Do they genuinely not remember?
The truth is that their mind is structured to preserve their fake, perfect image at all costs. Their brain will lie, delete, shift, blame, and rewrite reality in real time just to protect their ego from facing the cold truth of who they really are.
Expecting a narcissist to remember their cruelty and offer you a genuine, heartfelt apology is like waiting for water from a dry well. They can’t give you closure because their survival depends on never admitting what they did.
Now, I’m not saying, “Oh, they’re doing it because they’re stuck in their own trauma.” No, no, no, no. Please don’t get me wrong. I’ll just say it bluntly: Narcissists are evil. And if you need a direct answer, I say yes: They know what they’re doing.
So these aren’t excuses. This is just to give you the closure you may be seeking from their responses, because you’re not going to get any from them.
Continue reading on the next page
Sharing is caring!
[mashshare]
