The Ultimate Dirty Trick The Narcissist Tries When He Sees You as Too Strong

It’s important to remember that narcissistic people need to be in a position of dominance and control. The thing is: all is well as long as they’re getting their way and getting their needs met. But the moment that’s not the case—look out.

Once they’re not getting their way, once it becomes clear that they’re not in control, and once you’re not complying—or, God forbid, once you start making moves to take better care of yourself—what happens is whether you realize it or not, their ego takes a hit, sometimes a big hit.

And that’s exactly when they’ll attack your confidence and demonize any healing or growth path you’ve been on.

When this happens, it’s important to remember that this attack—and their skewed perception—has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is entirely their stuff, not yours to own or repair.

Now, if they can’t gaslight you back into some form of submission, compliance, or feelings of inferiority—if they can’t manipulate, dominate, or control you outright—then, given the limited tools they have to work with in their emotional and psychological toolbox, they’ll be left with no choice but to target you differently: more passively, but just as destructively (if not more so than their more direct tactics).

Usually, this will be done by working to manipulate and control how others see you. When a narcissist can’t control you, they feel threatened by you. And when they feel threatened by you, they will have to deal with the threat to their false persona in the only way they know how.

Usually, that means working to control how others see you and how others feel about you. They will literally go out of their way to discredit, diminish, and demean you as a preemptive measure. And the reality is that this can be going on long before you even realize there’s a problem.

Narcissists are fake. They’re phony, and they are liars. They lie by omission, and they lie outright. And they do so with tremendous ease and zero guilt, shame, or remorse. So, they have no problem showing up and pretending all is well while simultaneously smearing you to smithereens the moment your back is turned.

And it doesn’t matter the relationship dynamic.

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