6 Ways a Narcissist Uses Sleep To Cheat On You
They would come up with bizarre excuses related to their sleep and their phone. When you try to hold them accountable—about why they didn’t pick up the phone, why they were not present, and so on—instead of taking responsibility, this is what they would say:
“I was sleeping. I had a bad day. I was really tired. I had to turn off my phone by 6 PM. I had to put it on flight mode because I didn’t want to be disturbed. I wanted to rest. I wanted to sleep properly. I wasn’t feeling well. This, that, and the other.”
But the truth is that they were in the shower getting ready while their phone was on flight mode, and they were about to meet their new supply. And you thought they were sleeping—at least, that is what they wanted you to think.
This is how they play with their phone. They would do bizarre things. They would redirect calls, create technical call cycles where calls are taken through different numbers and ultimately returned back to your phone, and they would be unreachable. You wouldn’t know if they’re there, if they’re out of network, or if something happened to their phone.
They would come up with excuses like: “My phone died. I lost my phone. This happened to my phone. And that happened to my phone.” In reality, they were treating the other person the way they treated you in the beginning—acting like you didn’t matter.
If they are in a relationship with you, they are completely “out of the zone.” They’ve forgotten you. You don’t exist. They’re just in the moment with this new supply, getting what they want.
One other possibility: they disappear for hours in a stretch, and you wouldn’t know if they’re alive or dead. You would be worried—calling relatives or friends, trying to seek help, trying to get information, trying to get a clue about where they are and what happened.
Then they show up after a couple of hours, texting you how much they love you, texting you bizarre and weird messages that don’t fit the scenario. Messages that aren’t relatable—messages that can’t be made to make sense.
They may say things like, “I love you. You are the love of my life. I can never live without you.” Why? Because they’ve done something wrong. They know they shouldn’t have done it, and they know you would find out. They know you would be able to figure out what they did and what they’re hiding. So they start preparing you. They’re already love-bombing you. They’re already breadcrumbing you so they can escape accountability, escape their lies, or escape you.
Number Two: They May Fake Sleep on the Couch
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